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Nothing Is Permanent

As the clock ticks and the ocean waves come there’s so much that goes on in the world. Time is of the essence and after a while it doesn’t even matter what time of day it really is or what month we are in. Good things and bad things and so many things that you may not even be aware of.

You will never understand what someone is going through. We all have a unique story and our story is our special path that God has chosen for us to be on.

The person sitting next to you in the doctor’s office waiting for results or the person that is in front of you at the market, the little boy at the park with his mother or the teenager that is listening to her music so loudly and you thinking that it just may be rude. The older gentleman that gets so angry that you are going the wrong way in the grocery store aisle or the gentleman that is just asking for your opinion in the store about what furniture to choose. The mother crying sitting on a park bench or the Dad sitting in his car all alone.

No matter who you run into in life everyone has a story to be told. You can’t get mad at the person in the doctor’s office for being called in before you because maybe the are waiting for a test to say whether they have a certain time to live.

You can’t be angry for the bitter old lady at the market that is miserable because maybe she just lost someone very close to her.

You shouldn’t be mad at the little boy at the park with his mother that just said something so vulgar because maybe he doesn’t know any better then what he has been taught or maybe that mother needs to just get out of her home because her son has a disability and has no one that really supports her.

You can’t get mad at the teenage girl that has her music so loud. Maybe that’s just her coping mechanism because she lives with parents who are alcoholics or drug addicts.

Don’t be mad at the older gentleman that has gotten so ticked off that you went down the wrong aisle at the grocery store. After all this is how we are being programmed to live now a days.

The gentleman at the store asking for your opinion. Well he’s just lonely because he just lost his wife and wants to stay occupied and still make his home feel somewhat “home”.

Oh and the mother crying on a park bench who might not know how she is going to feed her children dinner after school because she just lost her job.

The dad sitting in his car alone. Don’t assume he is up to no good. Maybe he is battling depression. Something so deep that he just doesn’t know how to escape from.

You see all these examples are examples of things that are just temporary. Whether it’s a feeling or something that may happen.

Somethings we have control of much more then others but somethings are out of our control. In a crazy world like the one we live in we should be kind and be asking if someone needs us. We have all been just getting further and further away from who we once were. Caring and compassionate humans.

We help other countries but why are we not helping people right in front of our faces? Why do we have to be so cruel.

Unfortunately I have learned through the years that nothing is permanent and can be taken away in the matter of a moment.

Unless you are living the life of others you have no idea what someone may be going through.

Be kind and compassionate. Half of these stories I have actually encountered. And after losing our oldest son just 2 months ago… I try to have such a heart for others.

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It’s all from the inside

Hey everyone! I know that you’re probably wondering what is this title to this blog post all about right? Well, I wanted to get out there what I have been really thinking about and hearing about what others have been chatting with me about. So ….here goes. Ok.. have you ever wondered why people just can’t take credit for their own actions? What about others just constantly blaming others for something that clearly was their fault but they just don’t want to admit it? Why is it so hard for people to fess up and just take what is theirs? Geez!!Anyway have you ever been in the passenger side of a vehicle and the person that is driving is clearly not paying attention and being so distracted about what is around them? Then you say or maybe even yell at them and they start to blame the other person in front of them for stopping short and they have to put the brakes to the floor. What about when you can’t find something in the house and nobody wants to or remembers where they put it, so they have to blame someone. (ya, happens in our house all the time)! Oh this is a good one.. who has a Mr. Nobody who lives at your house? Oh.. we most certainly do! Never knew I had an extra kid in the house, not that I would probably notice anyway..LOL! Well, I am gonna get real for a moment here. Lately in our house things can be a little crazy (ok…maybe a lot of the time) but I realize if one little stumbling block gets in the way everything seems to go insane! We all experience something some time in our lives whether it’s something big or something that is just a little bit annoying right? We all go through things in life that we don’t think belong in “our story”. Some may experience something like a financial struggle and you don’t know how to overcome it. Maybe you’ve experienced something within your family that you just are not sure how to deal with it. Maybe you feel like you are just not the person, wife, mother, or friend that you want to be. Listen up… we all have flaws for sure and if we didn’t, then life would be a little less interesting. I know for me sometimes when I think I have had a bad day because the kids are misbehaving or just things aren’t going my way you just want to throw your hands up and walk away from it all.

It’s not that easy. You see this life that is yours you are creating. All the good things and all the bad decisions that have got the best of us stays with us for a while. Sometimes life just seems a little unfair but when life is tough there is a reason and we can look back and realize that annoying and daunting thing molds us into the person we are.

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Influenced or Influencer?

You know oftentimes I catch myself saying to my kids, “do you want to be a leader or a follower”? Well, we all want to see our children exceed their wildest expectations and rise to the top in everything they do right? I mean who wouldn’t want to see our kids get into Harvard with a GPA of over 4. I know that I want to see my children succeed and not fail. Although, let’s get one thing straight…we all fail at times and that’s ok. Get yourself back up and dust yourself off and move on. As I was having a conversation with my kids the other day about how some kids can be so cruel and others get made fun of on a daily basis, I was asking them how they would feel. It breaks my heart to know that some children just get picked on daily and what ends up happening is the other children that think they are “cool” are influenced by them and it changes their whole personality and demeanor. But let’s think of something…where did that one mean child learn that it is ok to be so cruel? I’m not going to sit here and blame the parents because children do have a mind of their own, but I do know one thing… children learn what they live! Children need the guidance to realize that just because one may be different or not technically “fit in”, it is NOT ok to just be a bully. So make sure you are talking with your kids and teaching them that being a bully is NOT ok. Anyway, so this leads me to this. We all have someone that influences us whether we are a child or an adult. Children look up to older siblings, parents, a family member, a friend, someone from church, or maybe even a family friend. We have to be prepared that someone may always be paying attention to what we are doing. In this crazy world that we live in today, we really need to be on top of who are children are influenced by because those are the influencers that our children shouldn’t be influenced by. Are you still following me?

Parenting is the hardest job by far whether people agree with me on this one or not. Until you are standing in a parents shoes…. there’s nothing that anyone can say different.

The saying goes “children learn what they live” very true indeed.

You teach them they way and pave the path but as they grow…. the path broadens and they choose their own way. So give them the foundation they will always remember because that is what will make a difference.

Plant the seed and watch them bloom

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In times like these

The days have all just become days and the nights have just become the same. Waking up each morning it’s hard to tell a Monday from a Sunday.

The kids being home, working from home, laid off from your job, no matter what the situation may be, we are all in this boat all together. As a matter of fact pretty much all the same suffering from the same effect, but in different ways.

The anxiety that has built up and the stress that is on our shoulders. The uncertainty of this has made this once called life something that we would have never imagined.

Thinking of everything that is taken for granted on an everyday basis. Just the simple fact of walking into a store or market without having to stand 6 feet apart or maybe even waiting outside in lines as the employees take a headcount because only so many are let in at a time. Not being able to go out to dinner with your spouse when now is the time when date nights are so needed. Not being able to enjoy fun things with our children when getting out of our house would be so beneficial. Visiting family members when now is the time they need us most. Our children not being with their friends at school and just don’t understand it all. This list is endless. I am sure you could think of a million other things.

What about the masks? Not even being able to see ones facial expressions is not only sad but strange. The plexiglass barriers that now we have to speak through. Almost feels as if this is all a nightmare and we just want to wake up right?

What about the essential workers? Some may have been dealing with extreme anxiety and having to wear a mask all day does nothing but cause irritation. This world we live in at this time is sad, lonely, depressing, anxiety filled, and scary.

The fear of the unknown captivates us into this never ending cyclone of questions. What is really going on? When will this all be done? Will we ever get back to the way life once was? I’m not 100% sure that life will ever be back to “normal” ever again. It’s baby steps before we can even see some sort of normalcy.

Some are taking this harder then others and some don’t take things too lightly. The only thing we can do is press on day after day. Pray for our future because no one knows what that looks like. Enjoy the time with our family right now because these moments count too.

The days are dark right now but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. We will get through this!

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I know you’re tired, but so am I…

Dear husband….

The early mornings, to the exhausting commute time and working so hard each and everyday for us, you have definately shown and proven that you are the man of the house and you will never let us down.

Kicking your shoes off at the door and then it’s your relax time when you come home. Having only a few hours with the kids and then falling asleep from exhaustion, It must be tiring I’m sure.

The baby is ready to settle in for the night but not before she is nursed to sleep and using me as her comfort zone. The younger kids get bathed and all put to bed so they can get the rest that their little bodies need. The “teen agers and tween agers” well they get themselves all settled for bed and get ready for their next day of anxiety, peer pressure and stress of their daily routines.

The daily tasks that a stay at home mother endures throughout her day is sometimes overwhelming. Not just getting herself up and ready, but a whole team to get up and make sure that they have everything that they need to have a productive day. For you it is “just you” that you are getting up and getting yourself together and out the door to be in your car all alone. What I wouldn’t give to have some quiet time to think all to myself.

Then comes the daily household chores and errands… The cleaning, the bill paying, the never ending laundry that sometimes resembles Mount Everest, the dog having to go out and all the messes that come along with the dog, the being taxi so that others can get to their jobs, wait… hold on don’t forget the baby crying, cooking for the littles that are still at home, the cleaning up of messes, the after mess of everyone leaving in the morning, the helping in the bathroom, the everyday hustle of chores, and don’t forget running your own business and being on the phone with a very uncooperating toddler.

Being a stay at home parent is a far cry from easy. It can be stressful, overwhelming and just outright exhausting some days.

But now the children rush in the door after a long school day and demand a snack as they drop their backpacks by the door and shoes in a clustered mess. As you are still trying to figure out what’s for dinner as you realize you never took anything out of the freezer or have anything planned for that matter.

Where did the day go? So now it’s homework, dinner (if something is planned) baths, and a little time to unwind. As I’m sitting here practically falling asleep before putting the kids to bed. Kissing their sweet little faces and telling them how much I love them as tomorrow morning it will start all over once again.

Don’t get me wrong I love my title as “Mom” but I would be lying to you if I said some days are not tiring and very overwhelming. By the time things are all settled at night you try to rush around and get as much done as possible because now it’s your time to be you for just a minute without the 50 million demands of getting snacks and drinks and the constant “Mom” calling.

Did you ever wonder why they don’t bug Dad as much?

So to my dear husband somedays when I don’t look my best or dinner is not on the table and we have leftovers that night. Please just remember… I’m so sorry but I’m tired too.