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Techno – Logical World

We have the access right in the palm of our hands. Thinking back to the first time becoming a Mom almost 24 years ago to now the way that technology has evolved is crazy to say the least. So if you are in your 30’s, 40’s, or older you know exactly what I am talking about! The 20 year olds well….they remember having dial-up for internet when they were little and being kicked off of the computer just incase someone was to call. But for us that are older we actually had to use a "house phone" to call and make plans or just to talk to someone. Now….we know every thing and almost too much of what others are doing. We have access with us 24/7.
Somedays I think about how life was so much more simple. We would sit there with our children and play "toys" and read books for hours and hours. Life was just so much more laid back wouldn’t you agree? Now that we has so much technology with our phones we find that even young kids have the advantage of having a phone even at such young ages. Not here though. We make a rule that the kids are not allowed a phone unless they can pay their part of the bill. We homeschool so things are a little different. But just thinking of the avenues that can open up with all the social media sites is rather scary. Kids thinking that their "friends" are people that they don’t even know or maybe people that claim to be someone or something they are not!
We need to stay on top of our children and ask them continuously what they are doing and who they are talking to. I never imagined the crazy world of being having to talk to cyber friends! I remember just taking with someone face to face and getting to know someone in "real" life to become your friend.
Some of the new apps that are out there it’s just insane. Why do kids need to feel acceptable and "popular" through social media? Why do they need to feel as if they fit in with the cyber world? What happened to the innocence of these kids? What happened with going to the movies, taking a bike ride, going out for ice cream, going shopping, just having a simple conversation and just being a kids WITHOUT A CELL PHONE???
It’s not just the kids but its everyone now a days. We rely so much on our phones and social media to feel that we are accepted. Which is really a sad thing for this generation. Sometimes we see all that people are doing and unless you know that person it could all be NOT REAL. We are always trying to keep up with the next person when before it was just trying to keep up with your neighbor. Where can you be where you don’t see at least someone starring at their phone or talking a selfie?
So anyway I thought of this word more in depth and thought ok… techno means art or or technique and logical means reasonable or
understandable. So I guess that it means a reasonable art or technique! So I guess we can say it’s logical right?
Yes, I know…we need the internet! I know I would be lost without it. My children even do some of their schoolwork on the internet. We have google at the touch of a button!! Who would have ever thought that we would be using a computer for all our answers? When we used to have to use our home phones (does anyone that is under 10 know what that even is?) to give someone a call to get an answer. What about Pinterest? Oh how I love Pinterest! Recipes, DIY’s, how to make just about everything. I mean how cool is that! Then there’s YouTube! Do you want to know how to fix things just go to YouTube. My husband just fixed our washing machine recently thanks to YouTube!
So, yes the internet and technology can be amazing and we really do need it. Just a matter of what you use it for. It’s going to be crazy to see what the next 10 years will bring with technology. Not sure about you, but I could never live without the internet. If I didn’t have internet I wouldn’t be writing this next blog post right now. So from 24 years ago to now it has been a complete change for sure! Can you imagine if we just took a step back in time to only about 200 years ago? Geez people that lived that long ago were probably predicting what we would have been like! Now we look towards the future and only one can imagine what the future holds. Although God has had it all figured out for years and years which is why we can’t outsmart Him.
Not sure about you, but I could never live without the internet. If I didn’t have internet I wouldn’t be writing this next blog post right now.

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Sleepless Nights

We all have that one time or other with our kids when we talk about our sleepless nights and how exhausted we are as parents. The newborn babies that wake multiple times in the night to the older ones that have a nightmare and just want some snuggle time in their parents bed. Some of us co sleep and others just get woken up.
The sick kids , the sleepwalkers, the kids that have night terrors, or just the kids that just don’t sleep ….PERIOD! Now of course we love our children and believe it or not, I can remember being almost excited for my babies to fully sleep through the night and then when that happens…I miss it in a strange sort of way. We all love the snuggling and watching your children slowly drift off to dreamland, but sometimes we just want our own bed back. Don’t you agree? I mean come on, no one told me about all these sleepless nights before having kids, especially when they get older!
So, I have a story to share that is kind of crazy. I have a son (well, lots of them! But one in particular) who is now 5 years old. When I tell you that we had sleepless nights I am not lying. As a matter of fact, he didn’t sleep through the night until he was 4 years old! So every night when I would go to bed I knew for sure he would be in there at some point. I was exhausted and burnt out most days and found that I just wasn’t functioning at my full potential. I didn’t know exactly how I was going to make it through the day, but now I can look back at this and talk about it.
Even going to preschool was a struggle not only for him due to his behavior, but he was such a distraction to the rest of the class.
Our pediatrician recommended Melatonin. So that’s just what we did. I have to tell you that after doing extensive research I realized that Melatonin is NOT the answer! So for all you parents please do your research. It is not a supplement but rather a hormone that comes for animals! Ya kind of gross right. Anyway… I could go on and on about this subject so maybe that will be another blog post.
Anyway, I started doing some major research and realized that my son had SPD (sensory processing disorder). He seeked sensory and needed to be close with other people. He would be constantly squeezing my arms and had to be right next to someone all the time. His behavior was out of control most days due to not sleeping. Now you can imagine when you don’t sleep well, but for a little guy, he was really struggling.
It was a LONG 4 years with him not sleeping for sure.
He had some sleep apnea issues that were addressed with specialists in Boston and we all agreed that his tonsils and adenoids would have to be removed to give him the best chance of sleeping.
His energy always seemed to be great unless it was night time, and then he would be asking to go to bed. We did go through with the surgery and he did amazing, although the recovery was awful! Although that didn’t cure the sleeping issues.
So I started with my research on how I could help him just get some sleep. I found out that lavender diffused in his room would help him, so that’s exactly what we started to do. Everynight we would diffuse lavender and it got to the point he was asking for it. Anyway, it helped but we knew that something else had to be added. So we found out that a weighted blanket might just do the trick. So I ordered him one of these heavy blankets in hopes that we would all get some sleep and he would feel secure and not need me in the middle of the night. I prayed so hard for my son to just be able to sleep through the night because we all just became sleep deprived and couldn’t even function normally anymore. I would always say that after I had him my "hobbies" came to a halt.
Well, between both the lavender and the weighted blanket I thought I had things figured out but still he was waking up but not as many times in the middle of the night. I am telling you it was almost like we were playing tag in the middle of the night.
So I heard of this amazing Chiropractor that specialized with pregnant woman and children, which was so up my alley because not only do I have lots of children, but I am a Birth Doula also. She works with all people! 🙂
My first reaction was, "why would I bring him to a Chiropractor when he wasn’t even hurt"? Why do I want someone to "crack" my son? I just didn’t understand all the benefits of a Chiropractor at that time. I even mentioned to my pediatrician that I was bringing him to see one and see was a little hesitant. This is where I should add that you are the parent and God gave you the wisdom to know what is best for your children. We know them best.
I still didn’t understand until I started to do some more research and found so many benefits of having a Chiropractor. I thought what do we have to lose right? So I called and made and appointment to take him in. We went to Harmony Chiropractic and when I tell you that the Chiropractor is amazing…that’s just an understatement! She was so welcoming of us and loved my son to pieces. Well the first night he seemed to be a little more relaxed when we got home which was nice. Then by the end of the first week we implemented all three things including the weighted blanket, the lavender in the diffuser, and the Chiropractor and guess what?…..we had a 4 year old little boy that slept through the night!!!! Can you imagine how happy we were? Even more so I was so excited to have my son get a good night sleep and be able to function the way that he deserved.
We prayed for that day to come. My husband was so exhausted having to go to work everyday and I was dragging with one eye open on most days. I was overwhelmed and stressed out and definitely NOT myself.
So for all you thinking that there’s no end in sight and your family is not functioning due to lack of sleep go find yourself an amazing Chiropractor! You are not alone in this. Hang in there and keep praying.

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A New Season Is Upon Us

No matter the phase of life you are in, it’s just for a short amount of time just like a season. It’s hard to actually believe that before you know it, you are already into the next phase of this so called life and there’s no turning back but moving forward can be almost scary but exciting at the same time. Almost when a tree loses its leaves in the Fall you can’t put them back on, but you know in the Spring they will be more beautiful then you could ever imagine right?
Well lets talk about the everyday family life around here with our tribe…
The baby almost walking, the teething, the 3 year old (which is a whole ‘nuther story)! The "middles" that are all learning to read and get a little sassy in between, the teenagers that are just trying to figure out life, and yes the "adult" kids, do I need to say more? Oh and the sweet grandchildren phase, which is all new to us right now.
This is the season of my house right now. Just learning each and everyday what this season is all about.
Think of it like this…. we can use a tree as an example. Sometimes we will have a big beautiful blooming tree and other times we will have a tree that is just full of branches and looks lonely out there in the world waiting for some attention.
We need to go through these seasons as a learning process and to figure out what our next step will be to get to the next season.
Whether we face challenges, new job changes, parenting issues, good times, bad times, new babies, grieving, challenges, moves, or even just the everyday obstacles that we face each and everyday, our seasons will always tell a story.
We will not always have a Spring and we will not always have a Fall, but that’s why there’s Summer and Winter to balance us out cause fire and ice will make things a fresh slate. Almost like a time to think about where our next season will be heading.

There’s always hope of change coming. Everything has a cycle and that makes life interesting for sure. The experiences that we get to have and see change right before our eyes is amazing!
I love to think about just how crazy in the almost past 24 years of becoming a Mother for the first time, how many seasons that we have actually gone through.
We need to accept the season that we are in and not just thank God for the good seasons but also the seasons that we may think are terrible. Be thankful for all seasons of life because it may be hard when you are faced with that season, but there’s a reason and a purpose that you are going through it. Not sure about you, but I look forward to each and every season although I might not of said that when going through a few a while ago.
So….. ask yourself this question…"Are you happy with your season, or would you just say that you are content?"
It’s like we have chapters in our lives and before we open a new one we have to finish what we started. To me that’s exciting.
Watching my children grow through these seasons has given me joy and hope to a future that will mold and form them.
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A New Day….. (at least the way it was planned).

Well well, where do I begin? So you want to know how in the world is it even possible with having that many kids and homeschooling on top of the daily agenda that needs to get done? Well quite honestly… not always how I would have hoped.
We all have these amazing plans and how we want to get things done in a day right? We have our "to do lists" on the fridge, our cozi app on our phones (which is awesome by the way), we have sticky notes just plastered everywhere (maybe), or just a mental note (that’s if you still have some sort of a brain left)!
So I am going to give you a recap of our day the way it was intended anyway, but just remember…. it doesn’t always go so smoothly.