You know oftentimes I catch myself saying to my kids, “do you want to be a leader or a follower”? Well, we all want to see our children exceed their wildest expectations and rise to the top in everything they do right? I mean who wouldn’t want to see our kids get into Harvard with a GPA of over 4. I know that I want to see my children succeed and not fail. Although, let’s get one thing straight…we all fail at times and that’s ok. Get yourself back up and dust yourself off and move on. As I was having a conversation with my kids the other day about how some kids can be so cruel and others get made fun of on a daily basis, I was asking them how they would feel. It breaks my heart to know that some children just get picked on daily and what ends up happening is the other children that think they are “cool” are influenced by them and it changes their whole personality and demeanor. But let’s think of something…where did that one mean child learn that it is ok to be so cruel? I’m not going to sit here and blame the parents because children do have a mind of their own, but I do know one thing… children learn what they live! Children need the guidance to realize that just because one may be different or not technically “fit in”, it is NOT ok to just be a bully. So make sure you are talking with your kids and teaching them that being a bully is NOT ok. Anyway, so this leads me to this. We all have someone that influences us whether we are a child or an adult. Children look up to older siblings, parents, a family member, a friend, someone from church, or maybe even a family friend. We have to be prepared that someone may always be paying attention to what we are doing. In this crazy world that we live in today, we really need to be on top of who are children are influenced by because those are the influencers that our children shouldn’t be influenced by. Are you still following me?
Parenting is the hardest job by far whether people agree with me on this one or not. Until you are standing in a parents shoes…. there’s nothing that anyone can say different.
The saying goes “children learn what they live” very true indeed.
You teach them they way and pave the path but as they grow…. the path broadens and they choose their own way. So give them the foundation they will always remember because that is what will make a difference.
The days have all just become days and the nights have just become the same. Waking up each morning it’s hard to tell a Monday from a Sunday.
The kids being home, working from home, laid off from your job, no matter what the situation may be, we are all in this boat all together. As a matter of fact pretty much all the same suffering from the same effect, but in different ways.
The anxiety that has built up and the stress that is on our shoulders. The uncertainty of this has made this once called life something that we would have never imagined.
Thinking of everything that is taken for granted on an everyday basis. Just the simple fact of walking into a store or market without having to stand 6 feet apart or maybe even waiting outside in lines as the employees take a headcount because only so many are let in at a time. Not being able to go out to dinner with your spouse when now is the time when date nights are so needed. Not being able to enjoy fun things with our children when getting out of our house would be so beneficial. Visiting family members when now is the time they need us most. Our children not being with their friends at school and just don’t understand it all. This list is endless. I am sure you could think of a million other things.
What about the masks? Not even being able to see ones facial expressions is not only sad but strange. The plexiglass barriers that now we have to speak through. Almost feels as if this is all a nightmare and we just want to wake up right?
What about the essential workers? Some may have been dealing with extreme anxiety and having to wear a mask all day does nothing but cause irritation. This world we live in at this time is sad, lonely, depressing, anxiety filled, and scary.
The fear of the unknown captivates us into this never ending cyclone of questions. What is really going on? When will this all be done? Will we ever get back to the way life once was? I’m not 100% sure that life will ever be back to “normal” ever again. It’s baby steps before we can even see some sort of normalcy.
Some are taking this harder then others and some don’t take things too lightly. The only thing we can do is press on day after day. Pray for our future because no one knows what that looks like. Enjoy the time with our family right now because these moments count too.
The days are dark right now but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. We will get through this!
The early mornings, to the exhausting commute time and working so hard each and everyday for us, you have definately shown and proven that you are the man of the house and you will never let us down.
Kicking your shoes off at the door and then it’s your relax time when you come home. Having only a few hours with the kids and then falling asleep from exhaustion, It must be tiring I’m sure.
The baby is ready to settle in for the night but not before she is nursed to sleep and using me as her comfort zone. The younger kids get bathed and all put to bed so they can get the rest that their little bodies need. The “teen agers and tween agers” well they get themselves all settled for bed and get ready for their next day of anxiety, peer pressure and stress of their daily routines.
The daily tasks that a stay at home mother endures throughout her day is sometimes overwhelming. Not just getting herself up and ready, but a whole team to get up and make sure that they have everything that they need to have a productive day. For you it is “just you” that you are getting up and getting yourself together and out the door to be in your car all alone. What I wouldn’t give to have some quiet time to think all to myself.
Then comes the daily household chores and errands… The cleaning, the bill paying, the never ending laundry that sometimes resembles Mount Everest, the dog having to go out and all the messes that come along with the dog, the being taxi so that others can get to their jobs, wait… hold on don’t forget the baby crying, cooking for the littles that are still at home, the cleaning up of messes, the after mess of everyone leaving in the morning, the helping in the bathroom, the everyday hustle of chores, and don’t forget running your own business and being on the phone with a very uncooperating toddler.
Being a stay at home parent is a far cry from easy. It can be stressful, overwhelming and just outright exhausting some days.
But now the children rush in the door after a long school day and demand a snack as they drop their backpacks by the door and shoes in a clustered mess. As you are still trying to figure out what’s for dinner as you realize you never took anything out of the freezer or have anything planned for that matter.
Where did the day go? So now it’s homework, dinner (if something is planned) baths, and a little time to unwind. As I’m sitting here practically falling asleep before putting the kids to bed. Kissing their sweet little faces and telling them how much I love them as tomorrow morning it will start all over once again.
Don’t get me wrong I love my title as “Mom” but I would be lying to you if I said some days are not tiring and very overwhelming. By the time things are all settled at night you try to rush around and get as much done as possible because now it’s your time to be you for just a minute without the 50 million demands of getting snacks and drinks and the constant “Mom” calling.
Did you ever wonder why they don’t bug Dad as much?
So to my dear husband somedays when I don’t look my best or dinner is not on the table and we have leftovers that night. Please just remember… I’m so sorry but I’m tired too.
As a Doula and a Mom of many I have seen so many discussions and have had so many chats with new parents. It’s so amazing to me that a lot of things are just not discussed between them and their doctor or midwives.
Who is going to be the one to just come out and say…"it’s not all glamorous when having a baby"! How about the things you were never told about? Do you recall the book "What to Expect When Expecting"? Well what about a book that was called "Everything Nobody Told You About When Expecting" or "What to Expect Now That Your Child Is Here"??? hmmmm…. maybe that can be my next book!
Oh how I wish our babies came with a step by step manual, but then again we would need one each and every phase of life until our very last day of life because we will never not worry about our babies.
Ok so we spend 9 almost 10 whole months carrying this precious child in our womb to grow and become this tiny human that we can not wait to hold. There’s been so much planning on how we would do things to setting up the nursery to what car seat we would choose. Oh and what about all the decisions….? To vacinate or not to vacinate? To circumcise or not to circumcise? What should we
use cloth diapers or disposable diapers? To breastfeed or to bottle feed or formula feed? You get my drift right?
Anyway.. How about just raise your child with what is going to be best for your family. Don’t compare what you are doing to what someone else is doing. Don’t think just because someone makes that decision it is the right one because there is NO right or wrong way to raise a child. Man do I ever wish that the came with a manual.
From that very first positive pregnancy test to the time that you bring that little bundle of joy home there’s ALOT that nobody has told you. Let me just put it out there… From the labor pains that make you feel as if you’re body is about to turn inside out comes this beautiful baby as a matter of fact the most beautiful face that you have ever laid your eyes on. God is amazing for that once your baby is born the pain of the contractions are gone in the blink of an eye so that you can focus on your little one. Then no one tells you that you still have to push out the placenta as if having the baby wasn’t enough. (don’t worry that’s the easy part) just something people forget to tell you. Then comes the faucet and I am not just talking about the tears you will shed but the postpartum bleeding for weeks on end sometimes (that you think will NEVER end) and the milk gates open like there’s no tomorrow. So you just feel as if you’re leaking in every direction to say the least.
Oh sounds fun right? Ummmm…. maybe or maybe not. Oh don’t forget you will still have your belly after the baby too! It doesn’t just magically disappear like we would like it to.
Then the time comes when you are waking up in the middle of the night and you feel like you will NEVER SLEEP AGAIN. Don’t worry you will or maybe you won’t until your child is 18 years old or in my experience you will NEVER stop worrying so sleep is a thing of the past.
Hey but listen…. God has chosen you to be this baby’s first provider, protector, nurse, chef, taxi (forever), teacher, first love, counselor, bank, playmate and so much more. We have a HUGE job but it’s a rewarding job. We will have a challenging road and no matter how old our children are they will always NEED you.
Holy cow!! Where does the time possibly go? Within the blink of an eye it seems as though not only do the days pass by so quickly but so do the weeks and years. I mean how are my oldest three in their 20’s and starting lives of their own and I even have an adorable grandson! Although, I guess you can say that we have been rather busy and even expecting our 14th baby.
When looking at pictures it feels like it was just yesterday right? It’s almost like someone waved a magic wand and voila… time has past. These moments in each stage of life have been so precious to remember and reminise about.
You know everyone dreams of the "perfect" life with the 2 1/2 kids and the dog and the white picket fence, but for us it was a far cry from that. I am what I like to call myself as the choas coordinator (sounds like a good title right)? Life has always been interesting for sure for our ever so growing tribe, but you know what?… I wouldn’t have it any other way.
I believe that God choose us to be the parents to such a large growing family because believe me I know lots that couldn’t even do it. Although I have to say…. somedays are not always what I expect. It’s the time that gets me. I think I have a good plan for the day and everything just falls apart, I have lessons planned and they don’t get done, I have a list to complete that never gets completed, I have laundry piled high but don’t have the energy to do it, I have dishes to do but honestly don’t feel like doing them. I think you get my point right? So many people think that just because you have a large family you have it all together, you’re house is always tidy, and you are just some organizing queen. Well… let me just tell you a little secret. Shhhhhh…. That’s NOT how it is. Somedays I just want to watch my kids play or listen to them talk or argue in most cases. I am breaking up little pity arguments or a battle of someone trying to save the day. Maybe getting that 15th drink of the day or maybe listening to whining about needing another snack when they just had lunch 20 minutes ago.
I am telling you all this because my day is probably just alot similiar to yours except with just a bigger bunch. So this is where time comes in. Don’t forget I am a homeschooling Mom to many and that is another thing that somedays it’s hard yes, but with everything that is going on in the world today I think we have made the best choice for my family. Maybe it’s not a good choice for your’s but that’s ok too. Just saying I spend most of my day teaching them not only academics but everyday life skills. I run a very successful health and wellness business which is one of the main reasons I can get through my day and have energy. My husband and I have recently started an amazing rustic sign business which has been such a blessing.
People will tell me that I have alot on my plate (like I didn’t already know that)! But you know what as a wife and mother we have to have our own little niche too. Don’t you agree?
My children bring me joy, show me life in a whole different way, and you know what we learn together and I love that!
Yes, by the end of the day when I am trying to just figure out dinner and do baths and make sure everyone is sent off to bed with stories and a kiss and I am so exhausted, I almost feel guilty. Why is that? Because… there is never enough time in a day!
This is a story for one that may be suffering or maybe someone that knows someone suffering. A story that needs awareness. A story that many don’t like to face. A story that I hope will be a light for others.
You see it’s a word, a feeling, a struggle that no ones wants to talk about. You put it on the back burner because you think that maybe, just maybe it will just go away. You fell lost, alone and crying out to God because you just don’t know why you feel the way you do. It hurts, you feel as if someone ripped you in pieces, you feel defeated and pretty much not even liking who you have become.
It’s that word…. depression.
I have seen it first hand being a Doula, I have seen it within my family. But did I ever think I could have ever feel that way… umm nope.
So many think with raising a large family that we have it all together. The fact is we ALL have struggles whether big or small ones, financial, mental or anything in between.
Sometimes the situation rises so much more then what we can bare.
I thought about what has happened in my life that after so many children something was completely different.
I had lost a pregnancy at 14 weeks (which my book will be out soon) I then had another miscarriage due to a blighted ovum a few months later and then I had a beautiful baby boy that has had intense food allergies that has been very stressful. I felt like I was walking on eggs shells and I wanted the day to just become the next.
Depression is so real and I believe the devil tries so hard to lure us in that direction and come to a dark place.
I felt like I was sinking to the point of just not knowing how to handle myself. So much had been taken away from not only me but my family. I felt like I just didn’t function to my full ability. I would be lying if I said that everything was fine.
You see many wont talk about it and deal with it themselves. But I knew I needed to get better but didn’t want medication. I never went to a doctor but I’d tons of research on my own.
I changed my eating habits especially for my baby as I was breastfeeding and still am. I found out that if I didn’t heal my gut I was never going to get better so I take amazing supplements. I was tired of hearing myself get angry and frustrated all the time. My kids probably didn’t know what happened to their mom and my poor husband, what a trooper. But praying to God daily and asking him to restore me and make me whole again was all I wanted. I wanted to be that "super mom" that people thought that I was. I felt like I had lost that title. It was hard and now I can relate to those that deal with this in so many different ways. But God.. He knew my heart, He knew that I didn’t want to feel the way that I did, and He knew that I needed to break free of that. I kept pushing on and praying for something good. Not a miracle but something good. And you know what…. He listens! I am so much better!
Never in a million years would I think that I would have felt so down. And…. no one knew. I kept my cry silent for months. I didn’t share with anyone and as a matter of fact I just said something to my husband recently that I know that’s what I was going through but didn’t want to admit it. People have no idea what that next person may be going through so don’t just assume they are ok.
My feeling with this is I hope that I can reach someone’s heart and let them know that yes you will get better but take the steps to get there. Eat more healthy and get your gut health in check with plant based supplements and NOT ones from the drug store. I stumbled across this amazing product while searching for hope. I knew that something had to be out there to help me. And there it was right in front of me! I can help you with that. I hate to see people suffering because now I know the pain. Trust God that he is the answer to prayer.
Don’t let the devil win!!! Stand firm and let him know that Jesus is your almighty savior.
So since this is Thanksgiving week I come to Him with thanksgiving and praise that we all can overcome anything.
My prayer to anyone suffering depression is that you will get through and heal yourself from the inside out.
From the my very first pregnancy 24 years ago to now, I can’t even believe all the decisions that we have had to make! Have you ever just sat down and thought about that for a minute? It all starts with one simple question, "Are we or aren’t we ready to have a baby"? Well doesn’t matter when you are ready. Sometimes things may just happen when you least expect it, at least that has happened to us many of times.
Whether you carry your child yourself or even adoption, we become parents no matter what way our family is born. We all still have to make some major decisions as parents and boy some of it is insane!
From the moment you become a parent the questions start to flood in and sometimes they can be quite scary. One way that I describe children is that I call them "borrowed blessings". Sounds crazy but seriously, children are God’s children and we are just borrowing them to raise the best way possible and teach them character traits to become the adults that we hope and pray for each and everyday. Now I do understand that when they grow they are the ones to make their decisions on their own but as a parent it is so vital that we are open, honest, responsible, loving, and just down right real with our kids. We have one chance to try and raise up some amazing humans! What seems like an eternity for them to become adults is over before we know it. Sometimes I would love to turn back time. Does anyone know where they are hiding that reset button??
So anyway we all start with a name. A name is a BIG deal! We try to pick a name that might mean something or have some sort of significance. Maybe we pick it just because we love it. Then comes that pile of questions….. "will we breast or formula feed, will we vaccinate or not, will my son have a circumsion, what doctor will I choose, what car seat will we pick (because they seriously make it so difficult with all the choices). Choices and the selections they have out now compare to 24 years ago is crazy! They never had "pink" car seats or baby furniture. So if you had a girl you were getting probably a blue car seat.
Well that’s just a shortened "baby list". What about when they start to get older? Oh geez! I am going to spare you the drama on that. But it’s just so fascinating to really just go over all the decisions that were once your decisions and now I have adult children making their own decisions. Thank God I still have little ones to keep me occupied!
Being a Mom has been one of the most rewarding jobs for me. Oh and yes I have had many of shares of tears and felt like a failure many times over and over again, but I just pick up my big girl pants and remind myself that this job can be tough, but this is a job that no one can replace.
Not every decision we make will be the right decision or the best decision but as a parent we all have to do what is right for our family. Don’t base your decision on someone else’s family life. Do what you feel is best for you. Definitely take advice from other, believe me, I still do! We all need encouragement to get us through sometimes. But never for once think that you have fallen short on your day.
Have you ever had that moment when you tell the kids that you will do something and then it just doesn’t happen? Tell me how you feel when that happens. I know I have done that and then that night I will feel like I just had an epic parent fail. Sometimes we can get wrapped up in housework, or just simple silly things that we have forgotten that our children really need us to interact, listen, and just simply be there. Years ago someone once told me that you shouldn’t worry about the house mess unless someone is coming to visit, you should spend time with your children because in a blink of an eye they will be grown. I can honestly say.. that is so true! I can’t even get over the fact that I am a Grandmother now! I sit and wonder how that time and where that time went. When someone figures out how to freeze time let me know will ya?
So, I guess when you look at the big picture of making decisions for everything in life, you should be trying to make the BEST ones possible. Do your research with everything. Just because you read it somewhere doesn’t mean it’s the best decision for your family. I pray that God will guide us all in our decisions. It’s a hard thing and we could really use some guidance with this one.
As our children grow and we see them making decisions for themselves:
1. Never think that your children are too old to hear you say you love them
2. Never think that just because they are getting older they don’t need you because they do ( as a matter of fact, probably more then you think)
3. Now that they are older they will probably become your best friends (hopefully) Oh DO NOT try to be their best friend when they are younger! That just doesn’t work out very well! You are their parent before that time strictly!
4. Know that even if you have a parent fail, your children will still love you <3
So I know that some of you are just starting out on your parenting journeys or are still waiting or you could be like me and still going through it or maybe your children are grown, but one thing we all have in common is we are all still learning. Everyday is an adventure and one worth talking about.
Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.
I know we all imagine This perfect "fairytale" life and having children is just the cherry on the top. Don’t get me wrong we have been truly blessed with all our children but let’s be real, some days are real tough, not just a little but ALOT!
Getting up in the morning has always been a crazy time for us over here with our tribe. We always have at least one early riser so that means if I want any "alone" time, then I need to get up when it’s still dark out! Which I love love snuggles on the couch if we have early risers but sometimes that can become a problem because I still need to get up and start our busy day. When you homeschool, you just need to be ready and prepared for your day. So… then when is there time to get in the shower, get ready for the day and have time with God before all the littles are at my feet telling me how starving they are, as if they haven’t eaten for days. Seriously, my kids LOVE to eat constantly. As a matter of fact our biggest bill!!!
Don’t you just love the days that everything runs so smooth that you can’t believe the day has already come to and end? The kids have just played so nicely and you got lots accomplished. As a matter of fact today was one of those days. Kids sharing the iPad, some kids playing legos and making amazing creations, some playing with a fall sensory bin, and the older ones doing their schoolwork without me prompting them.
I may have not showered but I did manage to get dressed and my heart is so full when I have cooperation and less disagreements.
But we all know this doesn’t happen all the time.
Let’s go back about a month ago when my 6 year old decided to cut open a humungous stuffed animal "to see what was inside". Talk about a massive mess to clean!! I feel like we had little tiny styrofoam balls sticking to the ceiling, walls, and to the floors (which I went through 3 vacuum bags) for weeks!!
Oh and the time my 3 year old just a few weeks ago decided to pee all over the bathroom floor because he couldn’t get to the bathroom quick enough and in the same day hid in the pantry and poked his finger in about 12 coffee cups and poured the grinds all over the floor while getting into peanut butter! Listen…stories of my 3 year old and all my kids at 3 years old for that matter, could go on and on. Why are kids so mischievous? This is just a small tip off the iceberg what really goes on over here on a daily basis, but I just wanted to let you all know that being imperfect is OK.
Sometimes we just need to laugh things off. They are learning just like we are each and everyday.
Lots of people think just because we are a large family, I have all the answers. The truth is… I don’t. Surprising huh?
Somedays are so tough that I just would love to get a break. Somedays are so tough that I didn’t think I did enough. Somedays are so tough that I questioned myself about keeping it calm. Somedays are so tough that I questioned my strength. But at the end of the day I know that tomorrow is a new day and I get to start all over again. Just hope and pray that my son looks at me and says "Mommy, pinky promise". As he does that and looks at me with those big brown eyes of his, I know that God has given me a big job indeed, but it’s so stinking rewarding all at the same time. I get to be their Mom which is the BEST job in the whole world. So yes, I have more crazy days then not and I get mad at stupid things sometimes, but I am still in a learning phase of just laughing some things off. To a degree of course.
Listen… when you’re having a crazy chaotic day, lighten up. Sometimes we need "mommy time-outs", a brisk walk, or just go to a room where you can reevaluate yourself and why you are getting all upset at little things mostly. Kids will always be kids and they need to learn too. They explore and get into things that they shouldn’t, they argue with siblings, throw things sometimes, stomp their feet, yell, cry, want attention (sometimes positive and sometimes negative), and can also be demanding at times.
But I reassure you.. give them some growth space to talk things through with them. We can’t always have our way either. Things will NOT ever be perfect and that’s ok. Sometimes go to their level. My kids love when we put on some music and just dance. To all you homeschool Mom’s out there give yourself some credit and stop being so rigid. Kids will learn each and everyday. I know for me if my children learn respect and how to become a mature hardworking teen/adult then I have done my job. We need to prepare them for the future. I tell my kids all the time, "I don’t tell you to do something because I am being mean, but rather because I love you and I am teaching you to be responsible".
You will eventually get that meal in or that shower that you have waited all day for. But in reality they need you. Kids don’t care if you showered or are in your best outfit for the day. All they care about is spending time with you and being happy.
So when you are having a bad day and the kids are all crazy, get into your "kid" mode and come down to their level. I guarantee you…. they will love it!
And he said: "Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven.
Just thinking of all the questions that people love to ask on an everyday basis….. A few that always stick out to me is "how do you make dinner" or "how do you cook for that many people" or "what do you make"? The answer is pretty simple actually. I usually find a recipe or something that is just a regular recipe that I make and just get the ingredients and spend some time in the kitchen preparing and cooking and then serve my family! No..all kidding aside. But, the answer is simple enough. We make dinner just like anyone else just with a lot more of the ingredients.
We NEVER just make a single meal without doubling or tripling the recipe on something. We usually have at least a couple of the kids in the kitchen that love to help make the meals. This is one reason we choose to eat what we do so that hopefully our children will learn that good foods that are good for you are fun to work with and we can be creative. And YES, we do pasta just lots of it!
We have chosen to live more of lifestyle that has lots of fresh fruits and vegetables, along with other good things. 🙂 Although the kids do eat eggs and some dairy.
Because of our youngest son, he has lots of severe food allergies, it is our job to make sure that he and all our children eat a lot of good healthy foods because that’s what our bodies crave. Our bodies don’t want all the junk and processed foods.
My husband and I have done some research on "healthy living" and we have decided that an organic and plant based way of eating is best for our family.
Which "healthy" can mean a variety of different things or ways for a lot of us. I am just sharing what we have decided is best for us.
Lots of people will say "Eating healthy is too expensive". Well, I get it. Although think of it like this…. If you go to the market and buy Oreo’s for 2 for $5, why can’t you go to the market and buy 2 packages of blueberries or strawberries or even a bag of apples for $5? The thing is, you need to eliminate all the "bad" stuff and replace it with "good" stuff. So when people say they can’t afford it, it really comes down to NOT buying any junk at all and not buying the good and the bad stuff but rather just the good stuff. Does that make sense? Anyway, we try to teach the kids that healthy eating can be fun and doesn’t have to seem daunting. Don’t get me wrong Oreo’s are yummy but without any nutritional value at all. So if we get a sweet tooth we will make things homemade and have some fun in the kitchen!
We don’t eat out very much except for the occasional pizza which we will regret later with our stomachs. 🙁
God has given us everything that we need in this so called world. So why do we need processed foods? We don’t! It will just come back to get us eventually. So I am not telling you how to eat but rather just giving advice of what I know.
Think of it like this… Our bodies are a vessel and we need to take care of them right? Well would you put regular gas into a diesel vehicle? No you wouldn’t so why would you put some synthetic food into your body? It is NOT going to be running properly and you will begin to wonder why you feel the way you do. Believe me, I get lots of people asking why they feel the way they do and the first question is always how and what they are eating.
I am no expert or nutritionist but I do care about nutrition for sure. And after finding out about my son’s allergies it has been amazing to me how my eyes have opened to finding out more about our foods and supplements that we consume daily.
I could continue to go on and on about this and other health related issues but you know where to reach me if you have questions. 🙂
A few of our favorites!:
(recipe for the large family of course)
1 can black beans
1 can pinto beans
2 cans kidney beans
(or whatever beans you like)
(mash these up in a pot on the stove)
(mixed these all in with the beans and heat)
chop up all your fixings
lettuce, tomato, onion, avocado, black olives
(the kids will sometimes use sour cream and cheese)
heat up shells in oven and enjoy!
Garlic White Wine Pasta
boil 2lbs pasta (we use brown rice pasta from Trader Joe’s)
saute brocoli, peas, red pepper (or any other veggies) in olive oil or avocado oil
add about 1/2 cup white wine, minced garlic, salt and pepper
toss and your done!
Garlic Green Beans
3lbs of green beans
avocado or olive oil
saute altogether until beans are soft and that’s it!
Little Man eating some breakfast!
Apple Cinnamon Pancakes
2 cups brown rice flour (we use this due to allergies)
1 cup coconut milk
1/2 cup cinnamon applesauce ( we also use apple cinnamon butter from Trader Joe’s)
1/4 tsp cinnamon
1 tsp vanilla
stir altogether and cook on oiled skillet and enjoy! I know this little guy did 🙂
Your husband walks through the door, you want to just feel some relief. You want to tell him so much about your crazy day. You want to let him know about everything that possibly could have gone wrong or just didn’t happen right. You want to ask him a million and one questions before he even has a chance to put his two tired feet into the doorway. Your kids are running around and acting as if all you did was give them candy all day long. They are so eager to get your husbands attention but all he want to do is just walk in, take a deep breath and relax from his day. Does that sound familiar?
Now if you’re anything like me… which I am not comparing how many children I have then you. But man, sometimes the days are so crazy and so long that I can’t wait for my husband to walk through that door and greet me with a kiss and start my novel of the day, because I always have a list of things to say. I know how much he loves that I could go on and on for hours. Ya right!
For all you homeschooling Mama’s out there and even if you are a stay at home Mama, you know what I am talking about right? You have a long day and you barely even know what you are making for dinner and there’s a pile of laundry just waiting to be folded that you will eventually get to.
It’s almost like your husband goes off to work for the day and then comes home and they are done. Well….not happening for us Mama’s that are exhausted and ready to just put our feet up and call it a day.
This is something so crazy to say but sometimes even though we have the most hardest, stressful and most rewarding job there is out there, we still consider ourselves quite lonely at times. Don’t you agree? We need that adult conversation and that’s one of the reasons I can’t wait for my husband to just get home everyday.
It’s kind of crazy that our husbands don’t want to hear about the million spills that we cleaned up that day, or how someone didn’t want to listen with their "listening ears"or how about how many times you had to tell your child that we just don’t do something or hurt somebody, or throw things in the house. Not only are we Mom’s but we are also referees, maids, teachers and so much more. My list could go on forever about the things that go on in our house on a daily basis, but I will spare you the truth.
Our husbands want to hear about how their children were awesome today, or someone learned to read or the baby is starting to walk and all the "fun" things that us parents get to experience.
Sometimes I really would love to erase all the negative things that we have to go through, but then again I don’t think we would be as good of parents if we didn’t suffer and deal with somethings. We need to learn and going through things is the only way to learn sometimes.
Sometimes we need "adult" talk to just feel like we are some sort of importance.
I have learned that being a Mom of a large family in these days has a lot of benefits actually. I get to watch each one of my children grow into these adults and hope and pray that they continue to follow God.
Don’t you just wish that when your child was born God sent a manual along with them? That would be amazing!
I think lots of you probably think that just because I have a large family that I have all the answers. I know this is going to shock you, but I DON’T! I am still an apprentice parent just like most of you. I learn each and everyday with my children and as a matter of fact, just when I think I know it all…here comes another child with another issue or something different that I thought I had already conquered! Man this parenting thing can be soooo hard. But at the end of the day I look at them and realize what an incredible blessing that I have right before me. It’s ok not to be a "perfect" parent and it’s ok to get frustrated sometimes at the whole learning process of everything…. as I just stopped because my 3 year old always has something to tell me or he’s getting into something!
So you need to know…. Don’t do this parenting thing alone. Reach out and ask for help. Don’t be ashamed that you need help because we ALL do! Make sure not to try to be that poster parent and think that you need to match up to what everyone else is doing because that’s NOT what your kids need. They require a few things Love, Attention, Guidance, Trust, and parents who set a good example!!
So don’t beat yourself up over how your day didn’t go according to your plan. Don’t stress that you didn’t get all the housework or schoolwork done. We need to support one another and be there if we need a hand. We are never too busy for another Mama!
Tomorrow is a new day Mama’s! So hug them tight and kiss them goodnight and then go talk your husband’s ear off and then give him a kiss goodnight! 🙂